Emotional Places – My Favorite Place Is With You

One of the basic rules of mental health is to inhabit and be yourself in positive emotional places. These are places where the main rule is to “live and let live”. They are environments where you can feel free and grow, but are also connected to something or someone. We should all have a favorite place, an enriching place where we can flourish and grow emotionally.

The topic of emotional places is not new. Nevertheless, most of the documentation and bibliography almost always discuss them in a work context. In fact, we are all very aware that  the daily emotional atmosphere in the workplace affects us more than most other places. You may not always find what you need at work to feel comfortable and relate to others. And that makes it difficult to give your best to the organization.

However, the interesting topic of emotional places goes beyond the context of work. To begin with, there are some basic things that we should not forget –  from the moment one or more people settle down somewhere, they create a certain atmosphere. All of us release emotional emissions. These combine with the emotions that the other residents release, and form an enriching, hostile or neutral atmosphere.

Some psychologists say that it often takes only five minutes to capture the emotional climate of a home and a  family. This is enough to read the expressions, the tone of voice and the style of communication they have. With this information, an observer can deduce quite a bit.

Also, real estate agents say that potential buyers know within 30 seconds when entering a home whether they like it or not. This is because sometimes,  even when there are no people nearby, our brains pick up highly subjective emotional stimuli. Lighting, colors and other details take on emotional value based on our experience and personality.

As you can see, this is a topic as comprehensive as it is interesting.

Emotional places – places where the heart is

Herman Melville said that the most beautiful places do not appear on the map. Two people who love each other in a mature way, build the most beautiful places between them. They knock down their own walls to open up to the other person. In their garden they plant respect and reap satisfaction. Each person invests in their own happiness because they know that their inner well-being will benefit their loved ones.

You  may not think  so , but positive   , high-quality emotional rooms are not easy to build. One mistake that often leads to failure is to believe that all meaningful and happy atmospheres are created by making other people happy. If you believe this, for example, you may end up being complacent and submissive at work. You will lack the initiative to propose and create positive changes in your workplace. 

In the meantime, on a relationship or family level, you become the person who prioritizes everyone else’s feelings over yours. In the end, it will simply lead to an atmosphere of frustration and bitter  dissatisfaction. What we want to make clear with these examples is that  positive emotional spaces require investment in yourself first. Take time to reflect on this.

Human nature, along with  emotional maturity  and self-confidence, limits the formation of toxic atmospheres.

If you already have all these qualities inside you, they will anticipate your behavior and consequently your emotional climate. It is important to understand that  all enriching emotional atmospheres depend on the psychological profile of those who are there.

How to create emotionally generous, positive and strong places?

Your daily emotional places should be your favorite places. The places where you can always be yourself. Where you know that your ideas, values ​​and feelings are respected. These are confined spaces where your relationships do not feel like chains or handcuffs. Instead, they are like hot gusts of wind that fill your sails with hope and make you free and full of opportunities.

It is not enough for people to love you, they must love you a lot. To create generous and positive emotional places, we recommend that you use these simple strategies. Let’s take a look at each of them.

Four strategies for creating a generous emotional atmosphere

Rather than focusing on the emotional state of those around you, start with yourself. The thing that affects emotional places the most is personal frustration, irritability or that we are defensive. Take a good look at your own emotions and learn to deal with them before letting anger, anxiety or lack go beyond other people.

• Positive reinforcement. Experts in emotional places tell us that people on average can tolerate one negative comment per day (such as ridicule, criticism or warning) as long as we get 4 positive comments. At the same time, too much positivity can feel false or artificial.

• Constant, sincere and confident communication. In addition to positive reinforcement and emotional encouragement, a high-quality emotional environment requires constant dialogue. All parties should be actively involved in listening and practicing empathy and self-confidence.
• Simplify proper connection. In a work environment, it is easy to get along well with many people. However, it is an authentic environment (at work and at home) when you feel you can “connect” with others. This is something that transcends simple courtesy or even language. It is called mutual understanding. 

Last but certainly not least, an important strategy for nurturing an emotional place is knowing how to pay attention to the details. Watch out for these daily subtleties. If you observe carefully, you will notice this assessment, the gratitude and phrases like  “thank you for being here”, “what would I do without you?” or “my favorite place is with you.”

Consider these things every day to create a much happier environment for yourself and others.