When Envy Becomes Seriously Destructive
Envy eats away at everyone it can and burns everything to the ground. It kills every living thing and moves as fast as a tsunami. Envy becomes seriously destructive for both ourselves and others. It’s a feeling that can really ruin a life.
We have all been jealous at one time or another. Whether we were jealous of their looks, achievements or luck, this feeling is not completely unknown to anyone.
Now, there is a certain kind of envy that can be called healthy. This type does not leave the bitter taste in our mouths. It is more like a small pressure on the shoulder that points to something we want or want to change, leaving an aftertaste that is more like sadness or nostalgia. Healthy envy is not as bitter or destructive as the pathological type.
Listening to envy so it can help us
Envy, whether healthy or destructive, tells us that something is missing inside us. Or at least it points to something we think we do not have. It can reveal a sense of inferiority that keeps us from having healthy relationships. Or maybe it reminds us of the dream that was lost somewhere along the way.
Whatever the case, this feeling always has something to tell us. That’s why it’s so important to listen to it.
We will not get anything by hiding it or denying it. Envy is there and wants to tell us something. If it did not, we would not feel like a knife in the chest when we hear about the joy and prosperity of others. We would not care.
When we feel envy, it feels as if something is moving inside us. That is why it is important to listen to it. We should find out what it wants to tell us, accept it, and do something about it. It’s in our hands, not someone else’s. The only person who can decide what to do with their unfulfilled dream is ourselves. Let’s not forget that.
When envy gets serious: Pathological envy destroys us
It’s true, we can not always fulfill all our dreams. But maybe we can change them to the current situation and work hard to make them a reality. Therefore, it is normal to feel the small sting once in a while when we see someone achieve something we have never been able to.
The problem is when this envy becomes the central focus of our interactions with other people. When it dominates our relationships and we begin to constantly compare ourselves with others. The only thing this will do is keep us from living our own lives.
We focus our criticism beyond. We look for the faults and weaknesses of others. It is a punishing attitude that prevents us from being happy with those around us.
What comes next? Hate. Our happiness depends on the misfortune of others, and their happiness means our dissatisfaction. And unfortunately, it can blind us when it comes to finding a solution to what has gone wrong.
To turn negative energy into positive energy
When it comes to envy and all this entails, we must turn that energy (aimed at criticizing and looking for the faults of others) into positive energy. We must search for what really makes us happy. So we redirect all the energy we would direct outside of us, to our inner world.
We can only compare ourselves to ourselves. It is important to understand that comparisons are really useless. Each person is unique and has their own strengths and weaknesses.
Why bother comparing yourself to others? We are different people, we have not experienced the same things, and we do not see the world in the same way…
Everyone is built differently. There will be people who are “better or worse” than us on certain things, and vice versa. We really have to accept this if we do not want to get into the life or death game of comparisons.
One person may be terrible at math, but it can be extremely easy for another. But the second person may not be as creative as the first. Every person is special.
To conclude, only by living our own lives can we focus on what we want to be and how we want to do it. So, in the future, we will not have envy. We need acceptance. Then we will be able to push ourselves where we want to go.
